How to make meaningful connections while traveling, even if you're an introvert. From pre-trip preparation to finding shared interests, this gentle guide shows you how to build authentic friendships on the road while staying true to yourself.
Making friends while traveling can feel about as comfortable as wearing wooly Christmas socks with sandals for an introvert like me (Reem, my wife, is the exact opposite: the friendly extrovert of all extroverts).
But here's the thing - some of the most meaningful connections I've made happened while exploring new places. The secret? Having a strategy that respects your introverted nature while gently pushing your boundaries.
In this post, I'll give you tips for travelling as an introvert, written by a bonafide introvert. Of course, every person is different, and please only do what feels right to you.
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Start before you pack your bags
Remember the days when we had to wait until we arrived somewhere to meet people? That's no longer the case. The digital world is an introvert's best friend for pre-trip connections:
- Join local Facebook groups for your destination and start engaging a few weeks before your trip. Even a simple "Hey, I'll be visiting in March, any coffee shop recommendations?" can lead to unexpected friendships.
- Explore Reddit communities specific to your destination. Fellow introverts often lurk here, and they're usually happy to share insights or even meet up. I used reddit to help find some local guides before a solo trip to Istanbul - it was a fantastic decision and helped me find someone who wasn't just a good guide, but also matched my energy in terms of conversation.
- Use travel apps like Meetup, Backpackr or Travello, to find events or gatherings that align with your interests. The beauty? You can chat with people before meeting them face-to-face.
Leverage your existing network (yes, you have one!)
Before you convince yourself you're starting from scratch, pause. Take a deep breath (don't forget to exhale). Your current connections might surprise you.
Ask your friends if they know anyone in your destination. A mutual connection can make that first meeting feel less like a blind date and more like meeting a friend of a friend (which it literally is).
Even if you don't get to meet said friend-of-a-friend, they might be nice enough to introduce you to one of their friends (friend-of-a-friend-of-a-friend!), or give you local social advice (such as safer and less safe places to meet people).
When my flight to Toronto was unexpectedly diverted from Costa Rica to Houston, I mentioned it to a friend that happened to have a cousin there. His cousin picked me up from the airport, and took me out for dinner before dropping me back to the airport for my connecting flight home!
Safety first, always
While pushing your comfort zone is great, trust your instincts. Meet new friends in public places, let someone know where you're going, and remember that it's perfectly okay to leave a situation that doesn't feel right. Your safety matters more than any potential friendship.
Be aware of where you are
I hate that I have to say this, but the truth is that not every part of the world is accepting. Whether it's your race, gender, sexual orientation, or just something about the way you dress, there are people that may not accept you for who you are.
This can be as simple as the need to steer clear of certain topics of conversation. Other times, it may mean that you may need to reassess how badly you want to visit certain areas entirely.
Shared passions
Here's where being an introvert becomes your superpower. We tend to dive deep into our interests, and this depth creates instant connections, especially if your hobbies tend to be outside of the "standard":
If you're into Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (like me), local BJJ gyms are goldmines for friendship. I went as far as attending a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu camp, where I was able to meet several people who love the sport as much as I do! There's something about being twisted into a pretzel by someone that really breaks the ice. The same goes for any hobby - photography clubs, cooking classes, or local running groups.
Join group activities (but choose wisely)
Group activities can be both invigorating and terrifying. And the truth of it is, not all group activities are created equal for introverts. Look for:
- Small group walking tours (bonus: you can focus on the sights when you need a social breather)
- Cooking classes where you're paired with others (food is the ultimate conversation starter)
- Language exchange meetups (having a structure makes socializing less overwhelming)
- Photography walks (perfect for when you need moments of quiet while still being part of a group)
Quality over quantity
Here's something I sometimes forget: you don't need to make friends with everyone you meet. Focus on making one or two genuine connections rather than trying to become the life of the party or feeling like you have to find some sort of a connection with everyone.
Be kind to yourself
Some days, you'll feel more social than others. That's not just okay - it's normal. Maybe today isn't the day for that group tour, and that's fine. There's always tomorrow. Remember:
- Sometimes the best connections happen when you're not trying too hard
- Taking time to recharge isn't failing; it's self-care
- Not every interaction needs to turn into a friendship
Baby steps
There's no harm in starting small. Maybe your first step is just sitting in a common area with a book (you'd be surprised how many fellow travelers will use your book as a conversation starter) or sitting at a communal table. Or perhaps it's joining a guided tour where the guide does all of the talking.
Final thoughts
Making friends while traveling as an introvert isn't about changing who you are - it's about working with your natural tendencies while meeting people within your social capacities. Some of the most interesting people I've met are introverts who found their own way to connect with others while traveling.
Remember, everyone you meet has been in your shoes, feeling a bit uncertain about making connections. The travel community is generally a welcoming one, full of people who understand the courage it takes to explore new places - and make new friends along the way.
Now, pack your bags, bring your authentic self, and get ready to connect with fellow travelers - one thoughtful conversation at a time.
Have you found unique ways to make friends while traveling as an introvert? Share your experiences in the comments below!
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